Infertility is an extremely difficult thing to deal with when you’re trying to start a family, particularly for the hopeful couples who struggle to get pregnant.
For families in this situation, the typical approaches to planning a family don’t really apply, which means you will have to look to other options for having children. While there are a variety of infertility treatment options, many couples end up opting for adoption, either because they want to avoid fertility treatments or because those treatments don’t work for them.
Knowing when and how to adopt can be challenging, though many prospective parents will try to have their own biological children for several years before going the adoption route.
Ultimately, it’s up to the parent to decide when they want to begin the process of adoption, and once you’re ready to take that first step, there are a few things to be aware of:
The cost of fertility treatments vary greatly and depend on how invasive or extensive you want those treatments to be. Basic hormone correction drugs, like Clomid, are usually covered by insurance, therefore cost little or nothing to the patient.
However, more extensive procedures, like In Vitro Fertilization (IFV) are around $8,000, and generally don’t have a high success rate. Insurance options and coverage for IFVs will depend on your particular insurance company and situation.
The cost of adoptions vary significantly and, in some cases, it can cost upwards of $30,000. However, most adoptions don’t go too far past $1,000, which is more the likely ballpark if you’re adopting from a state-run adoption agency or foster program.
So, it’s entirely possible that one or the other could be more expensive– it just depends on your situation. But overall, if you are planning to adopt, it would be wise to budget between $4,000 and $5,000 to cover the initial adoption costs and the typical new baby items.
Who to Adopt Through
You’ll typically have two options when it comes to adoption:
● Government-Run Agencies
● Non-Profit Agencies
Adopting from nonprofit agencies are going to be generally more expensive, but they are more likely to offer you more flexibility in terms of the age, sex and ethnicity of your baby.
The best first move is to get in touch with an adoption consultant in your area that can advise you about which path would be best for your particular situation. You’ll want to have as much information ready for them, including your budget, basic family history and your work situations.
Once they’ve spoken with you they’ll be able to advise you and direct you towards agencies to get the adoption process started.
Being Prepared for Parenthood
While infertility may be a difficult obstacle to accept and overcome, if you want to become a parent, there is always a way to do so.
If you choose to become a parent through adoption, make sure that you’re as ready and prepared for parenthood as you can possibly be. While there’s nothing that can truly prepare you, be ready to support your child emotionally and financially to the best of your ability.
You should also recognize that caring for a child from an adoption agency will look slightly different. Although the child you adopt will be your child, there are differences that you will need to take into consideration. For example, there will be a constant involvement with social workers and, in many cases, the child you adopt will more than likely be older than you expect (in most cases, six to seven months old).
Even still, it should be encouraging to those living with infertility that they do have options to raise a family, if and when the time is right.
About our Guest Blogger
Virginia Cunningham is a freelance writer and health enthusiast. As a mother herself, she highly encourages struggling to conceive to explore all of their options, as there is no greater joy in the world than having a child to call your own.
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