Deborah Lynn White is the Author of
“Who Else Wants to Have a Baby Over 40?”
Please read an excerpt from her book below!
There is nothing more joyous than reading the pregnancy test and seeing the word “pregnant”. There is also nothing more devastating than looking at your 8 week ultrasound image and seeing an empty sac with no beating heart.
My Story: Joys and Sorrows
I had wanted children my entire life and always thought I would be a good mother. I was married for 12 years. We tried to have children but just as we were getting serious, the relationship failed. I was in my mid 30’s. After my divorce, I fell in love with a wonderful man with whom I tried again to have a child. I was in my late 30’s. We could not conceive. I went along with my life believing that I wasn’t meant to have a child and that my life would be just as full and happy.
My career continued to advance and I moved routinely for the better job and the bigger paycheck. Everywhere I moved, I made quick friends with the families and kids in the neighborhood. I listened to their parents tell me how great I was with kids and that I should have one of my own. I kept thinking that the right man and the right medical technology would come along so that I might have a chance at pregnancy over 40. The next thing I knew, I was 44 years old.
I had just moved to Ohio for a great new job as a corporate vice president with a major global corporation. I traveled internationally on business, made good money, lived in a beautiful home, and enjoyed the best of life. I had it all except a family, a child of my own.
I had a chance meeting with a new OB who asked me why I never had children. I told her my story and mentioned that it was probably too late now. She said that it was NOT too late and that there was a 46 year old woman in the next room getting ready to have a healthy baby. She told me that she could get me in to see a top notch reproductive endocrinologist very quickly if I wanted to try. I was thrilled and went to see the RE within 3 days.
After all of the gloom and doom statistics, basically giving me less than a 3% chance of conceiving, we started testing. I learned through an HSG test that there was a tumor/polyp in my uterus that was probably impeding conception. My doctor removed it within a few days and I began the process of artificial insemination once my cycle returned to normal.
My doctor put me on an experimental drug called Femara which is used to boost egg production. On my second IUI, I got pregnant but lost thebaby through miscarriage. This was one of the most devastating emotional experiences of my life. I was left wondering if I would ever conceive again or have the joy of my own baby.
After my cycle returned to normal after the miscarriage, I started IUI again. On the second try, I got pregnant! Even though I was guarded throughout the pregnancy, I delivered by healthy beautiful baby girl on June 17th, 2010. She is the joy of my life and has changed me in ways I never could have imagined. I encourage any woman over 40 who wants a baby to try everything she possibly can to make it happen.
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