By Carolyn B. Schweitzer

Most of the media I encounter on pregnancy after 40 focus on how to conceive and how to have a successful pregnancy at age 40 and beyond. But there’s a lot more to having a baby then just conceiving and delivering. There’s also the 18 years that follow!
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Having had my first child at 46, I now have a realistic perspective on what parenting at an advanced age is like. Here are some of the pros and cons.

1. You’re Aware of The Risks

Pros: With a pregnancy after 40, you will most definitely know the risks and your pregnancy will be closely monitored. You’ll know every step of the way how your baby is doing and whether he or she is developing normally.

Cons: Sometimes you may feel like you’re getting too much information; it’s harder to relax and not worry about things.Constant reminders about one’s “advanced maternal age” aren’t always welcome. And waiting for test results can be stressful, even if they’re necessary.

2. You’ve Learned To Count Your Blessings

Pros: You don’t take parenthood for granted, especially if you had challenges conceiving and carrying a healthy baby. You’re keenly aware of how lucky you are to have a baby in your 40’s, naturally or otherwise.

Cons: Not wanting to be unappreciative of how blessed you’ve been, you may hold yourself to impossibly high standards as a parent.

3. You’re More “Ready”

Pros: In your twenties and thirties, you might still be pursuing career ambitions. This may not be as much at the forefront in your forties and beyond. Plus, as an older parent you’re less likely to want to ditch the kids so you can go out and party.

Cons: You may have spent so many years dreaming of what parenthood would be like that you’re actually unprepared for some of the changes it brings. You’ll have a lot less time for quiet meditation! For certain, your life will no longer revolve around you.

4. You’re More Patient

Pros: As life gets shorter, we tend to have a better sense of what’s important. So your little one will benefit by having a parent who is more patient and focused.

Cons: You might have some trouble drawing a line between patience and indulgence. There’s always a risk of catering too much to your little late-in-life blessing.

5. You’re More Self Assured

Pros: You’ve been around long enough that you’re less impressed with what others think. If they tell you pregnancy after 40 is a bad idea, that’s their opinion and has nothing to do with you. You are your own person.

Cons: You may be a little intimidating to some younger parents you encounter. You might also fail to primp and preen every single time you leave the house. Who cares if someone notices? This can lead to looking downright scary sometimes.

6. You’ve Gained Wisdom

Pros: You have a better perspective on life. As your child grows, you can share insights with him or her that come with having more life experience.

Cons: Eventually every parent knows nothing and every kid knows everything. No amount of wisdom can overcome this. No matter what your age, to your teenager, you’re just old!

7. You’ll Acquire A Youthful Outlook

Pros: You’re going to hear a lot about how a child “keeps you young”. To me this means experiencing life once more through the eyes of a child. It also means staying busy and active.

Cons: You’re also more tired. That youthful outlook and energy has to be fueled with exercise, good nutrition, and a little bit of “me time”. Otherwise, as you go through decades number four, five, and six, “staying young” will get harder and harder!

8. You’ll Broaden Your Horizons

Pros: Adding a child to your life brings all kinds of new relationships and experiences. It’s both rewarding and enriching. I’ve felt renewed by starting a whole new chapter in midlife.

Cons: At times this may seem overwhelming. You’re just ramping up as your peers are sending their kids off to college and slowing down. It might be hard to find other parents your age.

Naturally, not all of these points apply to every older parent. But it does give a more balanced perspective for those experiencing or contemplating a pregnancy after 40.

About the Author

After 20 years as a family dentist, Carolyn decided to take some time to regroup. Little did she know that she’d soon find herself pregnant at 45! Becoming a first time mom at 46 has changed her life in so many ways that she decided to share her journey. Visit Mommy In The Middle to learn more about life as an older mom.

Copyright 2012. Carolyn Schweitzer

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