By KELLY ALFIERI from TheBump.com
Published: Monday, Feb. 6, 2012 – 3:07 am
Sure, you can do it all, but you shouldn’t – you need to rest and heal during baby’s first weeks. Here’s how to get others to lend a hand.
When I was pregnantwith twins, my husband and I were trying to figure out what help we’d need when our babies came home. Other moms insisted that we needed a baby nurse, who would take care of the twins in the nighttime. This person would teach me how to care for the babies and let me get more sleep at night since I could stay in bed and pump breast milk while she gave the children a bottle. I had a funny feeling about the idea, but I went with it and hired someone before the babies were even born.
After delivery, I stayed in the hospital nearly a week and my newborns were in the NICU, so I wasn’t able to spend much time with them. Finally, I was able to bring my daughter home, but my son had to stay in the hospital for a few more days. I was thrilled to come home and wanted to spend every second with my new baby and my husband.
But it felt weird having a stranger with us in our home at every moment. I had little privacy, and this special time was spoiled. At one point, I let the baby nurse take my daughter into the nursery to rock her to sleep while I went to clean the kitchen. While loading the dishwasher, I burst into tears. Why was I cleaning the kitchen instead of being with my new baby? I realized I’d much rather be with my daughter and have someone else tidy up. The next day, we gave the baby nurse a full week’s pay (a hefty sum!) and told her she didn’t need to come back.
Knowing What Kind of Help You Need
What I learned is, before you bring baby home from the hospital, it’s tough to know how much and what kind of help you’ll need and want. Often, moms will overestimate or underestimate what they’ll need and end up with too much, too little or the wrong kind of help (like I did). And when you’re running on little sleep and recovering from childbirth, that can seem devastating….Continue Reading
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